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Treating people like a victim is always an insult.

Treating people like a victim is always an insult.
I have found that many white people love to pity. I have numerous white friends who believe that pity is an appropriate response to many people of color and minorities. However, many people of color (POC) often don’t see pity as an appropriate response to their identity nor status. Why not? Well, pity is often insulting because it assumes you (the white person) know what the person has gone through when you really don’t. However, pity is also insulting because there’s an assumption that the person you’re speaking to is a “victim.” After all, victims are helpless and victims need other people to speak for them, protect them, and offer them the coping skills to get through life.Nietzsche saw right through the hypocrisy of pity in that it makes humanity weak and powerless and negates the will to create. When you pity you’re “looking down” on someone else, seeing them as lesser (not as powerful as you) and therefore, some white people of…